I am a Christian and in my opinion you are wrong.
Have I made anyone uncomfortable yet? If I said this statement to you in person, your jaw might drop. As you read this your shock might tempt you to unsubscribe, unfollow, and even unfriend me (both online and in person). For my non-Christian friends and those who are Christians who take issue with the church I think I have just confirmed your rationale and the distance you keep from God and faith. Here is what I should have said.
As a Christian I should never need to announce my Christianity (it should show in who I am) and I am commanded NOT to judge others. Society has allowed us to develop two very separate lives. There is the friendly “be kind” love we show to complete strangers and then there is the “think like me or we’re no longer friends” persona we convey to everyone else around us.
It is so easy to cast judgement these days. Afterall, everyone else is doing it. With a simple statement of “You’re Wrong” we manage to alienate those we are told to love. With a blatant attack or condemnation of others we have “judged” and become God when we ourselves fall short several times each day.
Martin Luther King Jr. is quoted to say “Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that.” Even when people are wrong and injustice is happening we must unite together in love. Love is catching and people want to be around positive people. They become infected with real Godly love, the kind of love that Jesus showed when he was here on Earth. It is not my job to right the wrongs with harsh words and opinionated conversations that leave a sting on those I encounter.
To love means to listen. To love means to speak truth into darkness, not preach the dos and don’ts contained within the rules of religion. To love is not to assert that I am right, but to consider others and the possibility that I may be wrong. To love doesn’t mean to be swayed by those whose opinions are different from mine, but instead it means that I go to the Bible for validation or correction and have private conversations instead of engaging in heated public disagreements.
I am a Christian and I fall short of the glory of God everyday, but instead of trying to change others I am going to work on me and fail forward, hoping to share light and love in the world, showing others that their thoughts and opinions have value, even if they have different values then me.
“Therefore let us not pass judgment on one another any longer, but rather decide never to put a stumbling block or hindrance in the way of a brother.” Romans 14:13